You’re Instantly Less Likable at Work If You Do This
- Melissa Mondesir
- Jun 3
- 2 min read
Updated: Sep 2
Likeability is an interesting topic. While it seems childish to want to be “likable,” it really isn’t. Truth be told–being likable (or not likable for that matter) actually has a huge impact on your happiness, career, and relationships. In fact, research shows shows the benefits of being likable go beyond the feel-good factor. Studies indicate that happy people tend to be more productive, creative, connected, and likable. Who wouldn’t want that?
Naturally, we all want to be likable, so we want to drop all the habits we have that bring our likeability factor down. How do we do this? So what exactly brings down our likability? According to Quartz, one of the main things we do that drops our likeability quotient immediately is name-dropping. While we might think we’re being strategically savvy by incorporating a good old name-drop when networking, backfires almost always. Instead of appearing well connected or sincere, we come across as superficial.
The use of name dropping to boost our appeal to others is an acquitted crime that most of us have committed at least once in our lives. And, we’re not that, ladies. W. Keith Campbell, a University of Georgia psychology professor, claims that when we name-drop, it’s through an itching desire to look good to others, all in an attempt to enhance our own self-esteem. We feel the need to do it so as to make up for our lack of expertise in comparison to people who we think are more proficient in this respect.
However, Campbell asserts that when we fall into this terrible habit, we’re sending the message that we’re measuring our self-worth by means of our relationships with other special or high-status individuals. Interviewing for a new job? Networking? Almost everyone can see through humble-bragging–and you end up leaving almost the opposite effect than what was intended. Fortunately, we did some research on the topic–and if you want to boost your likeability quotient when networking, drop the bragging and adopt a few of the below habits.
1.BE ENGAGED
Instead of name-dropping, be engaged and focus on whoever it is you’re talking to. Be authentically interested in the conversation, and share more about yourself. Should you feel a little uncertain of yourself, Fessler suggests simply asking a question in order to keep the conversation flowing.
1.BE ENGAGED
Instead of name-dropping, be engaged and focus on whoever it is you’re talking to. Be authentically interested in the conversation, and share more about yourself. Should you feel a little uncertain of yourself, Fessler suggests simply asking a question in order to keep the conversation flowing.
2. THINK ABOUT ICE-BREAKERS
Speaking of asking questions, it’s a good idea to think of ones you wish to ask ahead of time. This is a good idea for those of us who may be introverted and find the idea of starting a conversation mildly daunting. If you can, find out who’ll be attending the event so you can learn a little about them via their LinkedIn or Google accounts, which should help you draft your questions.
For more career tips, read up on the eight 8 tips to building great business relationships
