11 Powerful Habits of The Most Irresistible People

11 Powerful Habits of The Most Irresistible People
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Integrity matters when it comes to being liked, so does making other people feel respected, understood and seen, according to a recent Forbes post.

There are always those people – the ones that everyone is drawn to no matter their social connections and status.  They radiate with charm and confidence and they have a certain je ne sais quoi.  Encountering people like this can leave you wondering what they have that you don’t.  You could spend days analyzing what car they drive,  what they wear and how many friends they have but you’d miss the mark every time.  The big difference? According to Forbes,  “irresistible people’s self-worth comes from within.” They aren’t made by what they have, but by what they keep.

People who are irresistible aren’t special or have something that you don’t. They’ve simply create powerful habits for success. They think about other people more than they think about themselves, and they focus more on other people than themselves.

Ready to finally crack the code and become that the most-liked person in the room too? Follow these 11 habits of irresistible people and get ready say “hello” to a new more stylish, smarter, irresistible you.

1. They Treat Everyone With Respect

In the words of Aretha Franklin, R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Someone who’s irresistible treats everyone with respect –consistently. It’s not something they put on as a ruse to impress. They’re respectful all the time; regardless if it’s someone they’ve known for years or someone they just met. Respect is a powerful habit for success.

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2. They Follow The Platinum Rule 

The Golden Rule—treat others as you want to be treated—has one big flaw: it assumes that all people want to be treated the same way. It doesn’t take into account that people are motivated by vastly different things. One person loves public recognition, while another loathes being the center of attention.

The Platinum Rule—treat others as they want to be treated—corrects that. Irresistible people are great at reading other people; they get people, and they adjust their behavior and style to make others feels at ease too.

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3. They Skip The Small Talk

Being irresistible means skipping the small talk. Once people feel a genuine connection with an individual a real conversation forms.

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4. The Focus on People More Than Anything Else

Irresistible people create genuine connections with others through focus. Focus isn’t just staring at the person in front of you and nodding. They’re present. They’re listening. They’re fully engaged. There aren’t moments where their head is down in their phones and they’re not worrying about themselves when they talk. All their focus is on the people they’re with.

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5. They Don’t Try Too Hard

Irresistible people don’t take over the conversation with stories about how smart and successful they are. We all hate that. An irresistible person doesn’t spend time trying to prove how great they are through bragging and elaborate stories. They’re comfortable with who they are and what they bring to the table.

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6. They Recognize The Difference Between Fact And Opinion

Fact: a thing that is indisputably the case

Opinion: a view or judgment formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge

You see the two definitions above? An irresistible person understands that they’re not the same thing. When a topic comes up and they give their opinion, they don’t present the information as if every word that comes out of their mouth is the gospel truth.

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7. They Are Authentic to Themselves and to Others

You won’t find a fake individual here. With an irresistible person what you see is what you get. No one has to spend time trying to figure them out. This draws people to them because they can be trusted.

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8. They Have Bold Integrity

Integrity is such an important characteristic to have and it’s sometimes hard to find. Those who are irresistible do the right thing regardless of the consequences or whether someone is watching or not.

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9. They Smile (Always)

It may have come from the musical Annie, but someone got it right: you’re never fully dressed without a smile. Smiling is contagious and when others see one, they’ll smile too making the encounter a pleasant one. People go back to people that make them feel good. Be that person.

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10. They Make An Effort To Look Their Best 

The goal is to be presentable not obsessed.  An irresistible person puts in the effort to not walk around looking a hot mess,  but they don’t spend all of their time making sure they look perfect.  Remember,  the focus is on people and the moment,  not miscellaneous things.

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11. They Find Reasons To Love Life

Irresistible people recognize that life can’t be perfect, but they don’t spend time focusing on that. They live it to the fullest and find the little things that make life great.

Bringing it all together

People who are irresistible aren’t gifted or special. They’ve simply have certain appealing qualities and good habits that anyone can adopt as their own.

They think about other people more than they think about themselves. They make other people feel liked, respected, understood, and seen.

The takeaway: the more you focus on others, the more irresistible you’ll be.

This story is part of Style Salute’s Empowering Women and Workplaces initiative. Style Salute, a media company dedicated to helping women live a smarter and more stylish life, scouts experts from all over the world to help readers tackle big decision-making moments by giving them the information they need to make informed and empowered choices whether that in civic engagement, finance, career, health, wellness and more.   

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